Ashley Sirah Nicole Chea 🇵🇷🇰🇭

Burn Out: Being a Mother is exhausting. Working is exhausting and being on beck and call to other souls 24/7 can drive you crazy. Yes we love being mothers and all that Jazz. However there is a very real, very unpleasant part to parenting. Hearing your name called every five minutes, people requesting food from you like you are uber eats. Can you iron my Karate gee, did you wash my this, or my that bc i need it 😑😑🤔 Knowing that they are only children and trying to teach them to be as self reliant as possible without going crazy when they make a mess or ask fifteen other questions while doing so. It’s not just motherhood, you can experience burnout as an entrepreneur, business person, lawyer, doctor or sales person. Over working yourself to accomplish goals, please people or just make money. It can really affect your body, mind and spirit. So make sure you are paying attention and take action. Take a personal day. Tell your spouse to stay home and you go somewhere else the ENTIRE DAY. Refresh your mind and spirit. You can’t help anyone if you run yourself into the ground.

Burn Out: Being a Mother is exhausting. Working is exhausting and being on beck and call to other souls 24/7 can drive you crazy. Yes we love being mothers and all that Jazz. However there is a very real, very unpleasant part to parenting. Hearing your name called every five minutes, people requesting food from you like you are uber eats. Can you iron my Karate gee, did you wash my this, or my that bc i need it 😑😑🤔 Knowing that they are only children and trying to teach them to be as self reliant as possible without going crazy when they make a mess or ask fifteen other questions while doing so. It’s not just motherhood, you can experience burnout as an entrepreneur, business person, lawyer, doctor or sales person. Over working yourself to accomplish goals, please people or just make money. It can really affect your body, mind and spirit. So make sure you are paying attention and take action. Take a personal day. Tell your spouse to stay home and you go somewhere else the ENTIRE DAY. Refresh your mind and spirit. You can’t help anyone if you run yourself into the ground.


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Feeling blessed in this moment of love. We hiked 3 Miles and went up a hill and enjoyed the partial burnt trails of California. I love pushing myself mentally and physically when I’m pregnant. I just like for my daughters to see me empowered by myself. Knowing that whenever they become mothers, Life doesn’t have to stop unless that’s what kind of mother they want to be. I’m praying they all find something that makes them passionate and happy, brings them wealth and health, brings them joy and a sense of meaning. Whenever they become mothers I hope they continue to do whatever that is within their motherhood. I’m writing and working on something special. I’m taking care of my body and I’m just living in this moment. I’m not in the picture, but i am lol

Feeling blessed in this moment of love. We hiked 3 Miles and went up a hill and enjoyed the partial burnt trails of California. I love pushing myself mentally and physically when I’m pregnant. I just like for my daughters to see me empowered by myself. Knowing that whenever they become mothers, Life doesn’t have to stop unless that’s what kind of mother they want to be. I’m praying they all find something that makes them passionate and happy, brings them wealth and health, brings them joy and a sense of meaning. Whenever they become mothers I hope they continue to do whatever that is within their motherhood. I’m writing and working on something special. I’m taking care of my body and I’m just living in this moment. I’m not in the picture, but i am lol


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Just cause she’s super cute and has the personality of a 15 year old. I love this little Virgo. She loves on me and stays underneath me. She calls me dad unless she’s hungry then she says mommy 😐. She doesn’t like being kissed excessively but she gives the best kisses and hugs. I will never have to worry about her in life because she will never do anything she doesn’t want to do and or anything dangerous lol. My cautious Lioness.

Just cause she’s super cute and has the personality of a 15 year old. I love this little Virgo. She loves on me and stays underneath me. She calls me dad unless she’s hungry then she says mommy 😐. She doesn’t like being kissed excessively but she gives the best kisses and hugs. I will never have to worry about her in life because she will never do anything she doesn’t want to do and or anything dangerous lol. My cautious Lioness.


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Homeschooling Amirah while raising Azarah and being pregnant has not been easy. Amirah is super helpful (sometimes toooo helpful) however I do love how much she is willing to help with her sister. She genuinely loves being a big sister and wants to play with Azarah. Now if we could just get Az to pick one mood for the entire day we would be good 😂😂 #cheadaughters

Homeschooling Amirah while raising Azarah and being pregnant has not been easy. Amirah is super helpful (sometimes toooo helpful) however I do love how much she is willing to help with her sister. She genuinely loves being a big sister and wants to play with Azarah. Now if we could just get Az to pick one mood for the entire day we would be good 😂😂 #cheadaughters


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Grief. Last year my Abuela (pictured above) passed away. She was the only active grandparent I had in my life. We spent every single summer with her and every single holiday. I didn’t meet my mothers father until I graduated from high school and he just randomly came to my graduation lol. My Abuela was amazing, she was strong, loving, particular as hell (insert me and Az being just like her) She could cook her ass off, witty, all about family and just amazing. I refuse to discuss her with my mom and I haven’t really been capable of being there for my mom emotionally. I realized it’s bc i haven’t been there for myself. I’m such a late responder to pain. It takes me about 6 months to a year to deal with my feelings. I’m mad at God, i don’t want to hear any bible, Koran ect scriptures either. Me and God have been here before and we will work through it. I’m just pissed right now. I look at all these Horrible ass people in the world, murderers, rapist ect. Why are they alive? My sister is dead, my Abuela, friends losing babies and parents and then bad people just get to live. I’ll never come to terms with this. I’m just working through my grief late as hell, emotional as hell and honest as hell.

Grief. Last year my Abuela (pictured above) passed away. She was the only active grandparent I had in my life. We spent every single summer with her and every single holiday. I didn’t meet my mothers father until I graduated from high school and he just randomly came to my graduation lol. My Abuela was amazing, she was strong, loving, particular as hell (insert me and Az being just like her) She could cook her ass off, witty, all about family and just amazing. I refuse to discuss her with my mom and I haven’t really been capable of being there for my mom emotionally. I realized it’s bc i haven’t been there for myself. I’m such a late responder to pain. It takes me about 6 months to a year to deal with my feelings. I’m mad at God, i don’t want to hear any bible, Koran ect scriptures either. Me and God have been here before and we will work through it. I’m just pissed right now. I look at all these Horrible ass people in the world, murderers, rapist ect. Why are they alive? My sister is dead, my Abuela, friends losing babies and parents and then bad people just get to live. I’ll never come to terms with this. I’m just working through my grief late as hell, emotional as hell and honest as hell.


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Soup is sanity, i honestly make different types of soups so that I don’t have to cook the next day. This one came out amazing!! The key to a good soup is literally putting things you like in a pot with broth lol. Seriously, i add the same seasonings, turmeric, cumin, salt, sometimes chili pepper, and garlic powder. A good broth and the soup sitting makes it taste better the next day.  This has two different types of lentils, brown rice, quinoa, sweet potatoes, mushrooms, garlic, onion, string beans and black beans. Topped with avocado, cilantro, Sriacha, and lime juice. It’s cold, Eat some soup! #vegan #cheafamilydinners  #soup #lentilsoup #brownricesoup

Soup is sanity, i honestly make different types of soups so that I don’t have to cook the next day. This one came out amazing!! The key to a good soup is literally putting things you like in a pot with broth lol. Seriously, i add the same seasonings, turmeric, cumin, salt, sometimes chili pepper, and garlic powder. A good broth and the soup sitting makes it taste better the next day. This has two different types of lentils, brown rice, quinoa, sweet potatoes, mushrooms, garlic, onion, string beans and black beans. Topped with avocado, cilantro, Sriacha, and lime juice. It’s cold, Eat some soup! #vegan #cheafamilydinners #soup #lentilsoup #brownricesoup


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A lot of my friends are doing the Daniel Fast. Which is basically a vegan diet with more exclusions. I’ve been getting the most hilarious phone calls “how do you live like this” 😂😂 All jokes aside going meat free is always a  good idea, if not forever at least doing it once or twice a week. One of my favorite things to make is power bowls. You can literally put whatever you like in them. Quinoa, Kale, carrots, tomatoes, chickpeas and cucumbers is a go to in our house. Put some vinaigrette on top which is super easy to make yourself. #veganeats #cheafamilydinners

A lot of my friends are doing the Daniel Fast. Which is basically a vegan diet with more exclusions. I’ve been getting the most hilarious phone calls “how do you live like this” 😂😂 All jokes aside going meat free is always a good idea, if not forever at least doing it once or twice a week. One of my favorite things to make is power bowls. You can literally put whatever you like in them. Quinoa, Kale, carrots, tomatoes, chickpeas and cucumbers is a go to in our house. Put some vinaigrette on top which is super easy to make yourself. #veganeats #cheafamilydinners


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Lean on your village. Motherhood has taught me the importance of friends with kids and people who just simply understand. Sometimes people who aren’t married and or in a committed relationship look at you crazy when you complain about your spouse. Sometimes people without children and or who are trying look at you crazy when you complain about your kids. You have to be careful who you confide in. However you need to find people who understand. Like duh I love my husband and he is my best friend, i don’t really want some single woman telling me to just be grateful i have a man when he gets on my nerves. Or just bc your man is horrible doesn’t mean my good man can’t be annoying at times. Yes i love my kids and I’m grateful to have been blessed with them. That doesn’t mean they don’t drive me crazy some days. Or that my 1 year old whining all day doesn’t make me want to poke my eyes out. 
We have to learn to let people complain, let people have a bad day and express their feelings like normal human beings. Yes we know others are suffering more, and yes we know things could be worse. However on whatever day it happens, people get stressed. Their feelings are valid, should be honored and not over powered with what you think they should be grateful for based on what your lacking in your life. Learn to be a friend who listens, respond first with “yeah that is fucked up” then follow up with, let’s find the positive. Don’t dismiss your friends feelings, or they won’t talk to you anymore.  We need to learn that people aren’t super human. I need support, friendship and a good ear. I’m grateful for my friendships and the ability to be there and to lean on when needed. Stop comparing your life to others and just be a friend.

Lean on your village. Motherhood has taught me the importance of friends with kids and people who just simply understand. Sometimes people who aren’t married and or in a committed relationship look at you crazy when you complain about your spouse. Sometimes people without children and or who are trying look at you crazy when you complain about your kids. You have to be careful who you confide in. However you need to find people who understand. Like duh I love my husband and he is my best friend, i don’t really want some single woman telling me to just be grateful i have a man when he gets on my nerves. Or just bc your man is horrible doesn’t mean my good man can’t be annoying at times. Yes i love my kids and I’m grateful to have been blessed with them. That doesn’t mean they don’t drive me crazy some days. Or that my 1 year old whining all day doesn’t make me want to poke my eyes out. We have to learn to let people complain, let people have a bad day and express their feelings like normal human beings. Yes we know others are suffering more, and yes we know things could be worse. However on whatever day it happens, people get stressed. Their feelings are valid, should be honored and not over powered with what you think they should be grateful for based on what your lacking in your life. Learn to be a friend who listens, respond first with “yeah that is fucked up” then follow up with, let’s find the positive. Don’t dismiss your friends feelings, or they won’t talk to you anymore. We need to learn that people aren’t super human. I need support, friendship and a good ear. I’m grateful for my friendships and the ability to be there and to lean on when needed. Stop comparing your life to others and just be a friend.


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I don’t make new year resolutions, i make daily changes. So I’m going to the gym today for the first time in 3 months. I’m celebrating my bump more, writing more and less blogging. Don’t wait three days, start today! #5months #3rddaughter #cheadaughters

I don’t make new year resolutions, i make daily changes. So I’m going to the gym today for the first time in 3 months. I’m celebrating my bump more, writing more and less blogging. Don’t wait three days, start today! #5months #3rddaughter #cheadaughters


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For my birthday I wanted to give back. So I packed my barely used Orbit stroller and car seat with all the attachments in the trunk and waited until i saw someone that could use it. We pulled in the parking lot and just gave it to a mom who said her best friend was having a new baby and needed one. For me I feel the most blessed when I’m able to bless others. I’m not rich but i have everything I need. Would i like a new car, yes but our cars are paid off and i don’t want a new car note lol. I’m living my life in abundance of love and not material items. I challenge everyone to give away something in good condition and or new to someone who needs it for Free. If you spend more time figuring out how you can help others and less time trying to obtain “things” you will notice an abundance of things you need appearing in your life. My girls are the greatest gift. I want them to give more than they take. Lessons are learned by watching me live how they should. Give back before the year ends. Even if you just pay for someone’s gas, food in the drive through. Just give back.

For my birthday I wanted to give back. So I packed my barely used Orbit stroller and car seat with all the attachments in the trunk and waited until i saw someone that could use it. We pulled in the parking lot and just gave it to a mom who said her best friend was having a new baby and needed one. For me I feel the most blessed when I’m able to bless others. I’m not rich but i have everything I need. Would i like a new car, yes but our cars are paid off and i don’t want a new car note lol. I’m living my life in abundance of love and not material items. I challenge everyone to give away something in good condition and or new to someone who needs it for Free. If you spend more time figuring out how you can help others and less time trying to obtain “things” you will notice an abundance of things you need appearing in your life. My girls are the greatest gift. I want them to give more than they take. Lessons are learned by watching me live how they should. Give back before the year ends. Even if you just pay for someone’s gas, food in the drive through. Just give back.


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Kujichagulia- Self Determination 
Today is my birthday and it’s my Jesus year (33). My only goal is to live more peacefully. I’ve spent the majority of my life defending and arguing points and I just don’t feel like it anymore. I just let people be who they are, and my circle aligns in a divine order. Greatest lesson I’ve learned in life is that God wants the best for us, we just have to stop getting in our own way. Let Life happen organically, in the words of @jerreau “Don’t force it and don’t reach”. Blessed to be a mother, to be capable of bringing 3 souls into this realm and being given the divine task of raising them. Thankful for a husband who loves ME. #capricornseason #jesuswasacapricorn #5monthspregnant Azarahissmilingontheinside #nikefamily

Kujichagulia- Self Determination Today is my birthday and it’s my Jesus year (33). My only goal is to live more peacefully. I’ve spent the majority of my life defending and arguing points and I just don’t feel like it anymore. I just let people be who they are, and my circle aligns in a divine order. Greatest lesson I’ve learned in life is that God wants the best for us, we just have to stop getting in our own way. Let Life happen organically, in the words of @jerreau “Don’t force it and don’t reach”. Blessed to be a mother, to be capable of bringing 3 souls into this realm and being given the divine task of raising them. Thankful for a husband who loves ME. #capricornseason #jesuswasacapricorn #5monthspregnant Azarahissmilingontheinside #nikefamily


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Enjoying this first day of Kwanzaa (Umoja) with my loves. Can’t believe we are bringing another baby into the mix in 41/2 months.

Enjoying this first day of Kwanzaa (Umoja) with my loves. Can’t believe we are bringing another baby into the mix in 41/2 months.


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The end.